I wrote these words a while ago at the back of my 2025 diary. I can’t remember exactly when. I didn’t even do it particularly consciously, it just happened. 

Things have been evolving for some time now. 

Back in 2016, there was no ‘Temple Divine’, my professional social media profiles were called ‘Clare Bennett’. I focused on coaching, and hosted sharing circles in Glasgow like Self Love Club and Authentic Connections. Whether in one-to-one sessions or in groups, my core intention was to create spaces where people could drop the mask and speak from the HEART. And I did the same 

I hired physical spaces here and there, and some felt more like home than others.

Over the next 4 years, I gradually moved into more structured spiritual practices like REIKI, MEDITATION, and I started learning THERAPEUTIC MYTHIC TAROT. 

Then 2020 happened, and it became clear how important it was to have a physical space to root and ground into. That’s when TEMPLE DIVINE was born, a temple in the physical world, but also a connection with the non-physical, the DIVINE. 

And gradually, over time (that I’m not sure I was even conscious of at the time), I felt a deeper RESPONSIBILITY when posting. There was a WEIGHTINESS, not only in looking after a physical space, but in giving voice to Temple Divine itself. It felt BIGGER than me. GRANDER. 

 It wasn’t just about me.

I focused on being the PROFESSIONAL voice of Temple Divine, because high standards and INTEGRITY are important to me. This felt like building strong FOUNDATIONS. 

But what about the PERSONALITY? 

I’m very group-focused and community-minded and I take my responsibilities very seriously. But the work that I was doing back in 2016, that SELF-LOVE is the FOUNDATION for everything else. 

Along the way, through prioritising the collective mission, I lost parts of myself.

I found myself always writing “WE” instead of “ME.” I felt like I was speaking on behalf of a whole community, not myself anymore. Somewhere in that, I silenced my own VOICE. Some of you know I even lost my PHYSICAL VOICE for a time. 

Things have changed now.

As I write this in 

 LIBRA SEASON, I’m reminded of BALANCE. Libra is about the scales, the relationship between TWO. Not ‘this’ or ‘that’ but BOTH. 

We need NIGHT and DAY.
HEAD and HEART.
LEFT and RIGHT (take that as you will).
The individual AND collective. Me AND We.

This is BALANCE.

Libra knows this. It seeks PEACE, it sees BOTH sides, it weighs things up. It knows that PARTNERSHIP is the truth, that BOTH are needed.

Another DUALITY shows up for me through GEMINI. My rising sign is Gemini, and my progressed Sun has moved into Gemini for the next 20-odd years. So yes, duality is a big theme in my life right now. BOTH. I want BOTH. I need BOTH. 

My business needs to be PROFESSIONAL. But it also has PERSONALITY, and HEART, a great BIG HEART. 

And I’m here for people with BIG HEARTS. Sensitive HEARTS. Courageous HEARTS. Strong HEARTS. 

Professionalism is IMPORTANT. Honestly, it would be good to see more of it in the spiritual community. If people are paying for a service, they deserve QUALITY, and they should EXPECT it. This work deserves RESPECT, and it’s reasonable to charge for higher standards accordingly. 

But here’s the thing: I don’t want to sound like every other wellness offering out there, carefully avoiding anything that might not look ‘high-vibe’ ‘nice’ or ‘kind.’

Many people are scared of posting the truth and carefully curate posts.

Raw and Real are fine with me.

Especially in this world of AI-generated content, many spiritual wellness brands are starting to really look and sound the same. A little BLAND. 

REMEMBER…

You CAN be DIRECT and still have a GOOD HEART.
You CAN call things out with LOVE and INTEGRITY.
You CAN be PROFESSIONAL and have PERSONALITY.

We cannot be 100% SPIRITUAL. We are HUMAN. And our HUMANNESS must be experienced. If not, it slips into the SHADOW, abandoned, and grows into something distorted. 

Things get real ugly there.

We are here to be ourselves FULLY.
ALL of us.
And you are welcome as yourself at TEMPLE DIVINE. 

Thank you for reading this length of post. We all have shorter attention spans these days, and I appreciate you spending your time reading this far. 

If something in this post SPOKE to you, or made you FEEL SOMETHING, leave a comment and let me know. 

Let’s continue being REAL in this Authentic Revolution.

Yours with genuine HEART and SOUL,

Clare 

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But it’s not just me.

We all have extremes within us.

I believe that part of our life journey is to understand and honour these extreme parts of ourselves in order that we can lead an authentic and fulfilling life.

Today, I will introduce you to two of my own personal extremes in order to illustrate my point.

Firstly, meet Goody Two Shoes

• Her core values are love, compassion and sensitivity.
• She cares about others so deeply that she often puts others before herself.
• She experiences the world so intensely that it often feels overwhelming.
• Her primary concern is contributing to the good of humanity.  

Next, meet The Wild Woman

• Her core values are adventure, freedom and courage.
• She is rebellious, and loves going against the grain.
• She does not like being told what to do.
• Her primary concern is being herself in the world.

INTERNAL TUG OF WAR

In the past, these two extremes within me have felt like an internal tug-of-war, with both parts vying for attention to have their needs met.

In order to satisfy both parts, I would jump from one extreme to the other. In my early twenties I was a Girls’ Brigade officer (hello Goody Two Shoes) but straight after I had finished my volunteering shift,  I would quickly change, and then head out to the city centre for a 48 hour non-stop drinking and drug-taking adventure which The Wild Woman found extremely satisfying.

For a long time I struggled understanding these extremes within me, and it resulted in an identity crisis.

SEARCHING FOR ANSWERS

On this journey of self-discovery I researched different personality types and spent long hours carrying out questionnaires seeking clarity, but none of these ‘types’ fully felt like the right fit.

I learned that these types of analyses can be helpful, but they are only a starting point.

I realised that I am BOTH of these aspects, and so much more.

WORKING IN HARMONY

At first I thought that these extremes were at odds, but I have since learned that they can be mutually supportive and work in harmony.

Today as a Coach, Facilitator and Speaker my purpose is to create social change through speaking from the heart.

Social Visionary Goody Two Shoes cares for the world deeply and sees that more positive alternatives are possible. The Wild Woman within has the courage to share this vision and challenge social norms.

SELF-ACTUALISATION

Operating from the socially acceptable middle ground keeps us safe, but not fulfilled.

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for”

J. A. Shedd

When you truly honour all parts of yourself, as extreme as they may be, and meet ALL of your needs then you can fulfill your potential without limits.

WHAT ARE YOUR OWN PERSONAL EXTREMES?

Perhaps you identify with one or both of my extremes, or perhaps there are other extremes within you.

Perhaps you have already identified them, or perhaps you would like to do that now.

You may feel that there are parts of yourself that are longing to be expressed and have their needs met.

If you would like to feel extremely fulfilled, then I invite you to listen to your conscience, hear the call of the wild and LIVE YOUR EXTREMES.

I WOULD LOVE TO SUPPORT YOU

I would love to support you in this journey of self-discovery and self-actualisation through one to one tailored coaching.

I would love to support you with my intuitive and person-centred approach.

I would love to support you to create change in your life.

Contact me for a free discovery consultation today.

Much love to you

Clare x

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